“Dear Past Jas” is a blog series of short reads with life lessons that I wish I knew growing up and that may resonate with you or inspire you.
As a child and teen, there was a constant pressure to be liked and accepted by others. Growing up in the mid-90’s, social media started becoming an avenue where you compared your amount of friends and even the rank of your friends. The more “friends” you had, the better.
When you get older, you gain a clearer perspective of the real and loose connections you have. Who truly cares about you and your life? Who checks up on you to hear about your thoughts and well-being? Who will really be there for you through all the good and bad times?
People change and grow, with or without you, so the true test of a friendship is that mutual effort. I have stopped trying to reach out and fix friendships where the other person doesn't seem as invested as I am. If they sincerely care about you, they will make space for you and let you into their schedules and lives. When you have a job and other responsibilities, you now have to consider who is better worth your time and energy. ♡